It is human to want the “good” things, the big things, the things that will make us live above average lives. But, this is not the case for everyone, because we all have different views on life based on the way we acclimated with society.

For many of us, we will only live our best lives if we have a million dollars in the bank and a 6000 square foot house by the ocean. While for others they envision their best lives having a farm in the country, feeding Pigs everyday and taking kayaking trips on the small town river.

Does that make them weird?

We are all from different places, different countries, different upbringings. The way I was raised helped tailor my life’s ambitions and goals.

I grew up in a very small, rural farming town in central Jamaica. The biggest events that happened there was the occasional community gossip and when the government commissioned a wind farm basically in my backyard.

I dreaded growing up there. It was small, claustrophobic in a sense and beyond lacked the opportunities I would need to become the person I dreamt of. I needed big, I needed a New York, a London, a Shanghai.

That town just would not have cut it.

My ambitions were bigger than anything else, and for me being successful and living comfortably was having the chance to make an impact around the world while traveling it, having a nice house/s, and having money to do whatever I want.

Fundamentally, me being born in a small town, in a small country, ignited the need to want more, to dream far bigger and think beyond the shores of Jamaica.

However, for some people, their humble upbringing makes them crave the status quo even more, and they get frightened by the thought of even leaving their childhood lives behind.

Hence, they envision success within the confines of what they know. They grew up on a 50 acre farm, so they dream of having a 200 acre farm when they grow up. They had only Cows and Chickens on the farm as a child, so they envision themselves having a 200 acre farm with a zoo of sorts.

Does this mean they are settling for less, selling themselves short?

I do not think so. You see, everyone will not be a millionaire, everyone will not live in a city, everyone will not drive a Tesla.

We all have different aspirations, and because mine is far different from yours, does not make it weird or unfulfilling. Society has led us to believe that living in a concrete jungle and stressing yourself towards a bigger paycheck is the ultimate dream.

But, it is not!

Studies have shown that people who live outside of cities live much happier lives. People who are intertwined with nature and its beauty are much more at peace. I was once shallow minded, in the sense that I envisioned success the way society designed it, but I have since realized that success is what you make it.

Happiness is what you create, what you want, what makes you comfortable.

There is no “success” that is better than another. Just because you have won a million awards and live in a mansion overlooking the Pacific in Malibu does not make what you have achieved any better than someone who’s Pig won “Best Sow” at the farmer’s market in Utah.

Our ultimate happiness is closely related to how much of our dreams and aspirations we accomplish. The closer we get to achieving them, the more rewarded we become, and those dreams will always differ from individual to individual.

For most of us, we work hard to achieve our dreams. We materialize them through hard work, sweat, tears and lots of sacrifice, and whether that dream is to live a comfortable life in Montana or on the Riviera in France, all dreams are equal.

What are your thoughts?

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Dave Anthony

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I am a Jamaican born Entrepreneur living in the United States. Adventurous, writer, weird, down to earth. Here I write about interesting stuff that educates, thrills and influences.

28 replies on “Maybe This is Why Some People Settle for “Less”

  1. I already liked this post, and realize you haven’t been around in a bit, but just wanted to let you know I enjoy following along so much that even though my viewer list is far smaller than yours I nominated you for the Diverse Blogger Award on my site anyhow. Hope to see you back again soon!

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    1. Thanks a lot Mandy, this is very thoughtful. It is not about how many followers or readers you have, we all have to start somewhere. I started this blog last October with 0 followers, its just about being consistent, and pushing out great content. I am still here lol, just busy working on a few other projects that I hope to share with you guys soon. Also, if I’m not inspired I don’t really write, I have to feel something to really write about it, otherwise I rather not write at all, if you get what I’m saying. Thinking of it, I might just write a post on that very topic tomorrow. See, you inspired me :). Thanks again for the nomination and support, I will follow up to see how it turns out. One Love.

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      1. Well I am looking very forward to getting caught up when you are ready to share πŸ™‚ And I couldn’t agree with you more – I know a lot of people insist on just writing anyhow, but it’s your passion for what you’re putting out in the world that keeps people coming back to check up on you, and if you’re not inspired or your heart isn’t in something then take all the time you need! Haha, glad I could be of some use! One day I’m sure I’ll need the favour returned πŸ˜‰

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  2. I grew up in a city and now we are living on a small hobby farm raising 3 amazing kids. I think our house is only 1300 square feet and we have 5 acres with 33 chickens, 2 goats and a dog. This is my heaven, and somedays I wonder how I got so lucky. Everyone dreams of something different and that is what makes this world such an interesting place! Loved your article.

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    1. Thanks for your feedback. That sounds like a great life. Indeed, we all have our own aspirations and dreams, many times they vary greatly, but at the end of the day it is what makes us happy that counts. One Love and continue living the good life. πŸ™‚

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  3. Wow, I just realized I am thinking locally. I am from Miami and I know Miami; so I keep looking for what I need here. Plus my dad was an aviation lawyer, and I used to wait with him when there was a plane crash while they were looking for the black box leaving me very, very afraid to fly. I admit it.

    It would make me happy if I could help sitting / standing computer users recognize and prevent ergonomic risk factors (based on the 40 + years of peer-reviewed studies) that lead to injury and disability instead of waiting for OSHA to audit a company due one (1) unreported MSD (musculoskeletal disorder) occurring, fine the employer, while leaving the injured worker stuck in pain forever.

    In fact, once I learn how to make a web site (I thought it would be easier) I intend to give Ergosoft Ergonomics Software away for free. I know this is a long comment; but I dare say I am being schooled by The UnSchool. Thank you, Mr. Anthony.

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  4. You’re right: I think folks have dreams according to their worldviews, perspectives and experiences. Some do want the status quo. Others dream of something different. I think society does a terrible job of accepting all ends of the dream spectrum. I grew up in the city and didn’t want that life after I was able to move out on my own. I went to a rural area, and lived (and still live) in a rural area. Now, I’ve moved back to town, but it’s a town of 10K people, not 500K like where I grew up. It’s possible to bike ride to places and I love that. My idea of achieving a dream is to make a living working on my own terms doing what I love, writing books, making coloring books, traveling some and visiting family regularly in various parts of the US. I left the “I need a fat paycheck” idea behind long ago, though if one of my books became a bestseller, I wouldn’t complain. πŸ™‚ Thought-provoking post. Loved it! Thanks. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks for your comment Sageleaf. I appreciate the kind words and glad I could offer some perspective on your life and others out there who think just like you. There is no one type of success, however, society trains us to think that a penthouse in NYC a yacht in Monaco is the only form of success there is. It’s nice to know that you have defined what success and happiness means to you, and at the end of the day that is what makes you happy.

      Continue living the life you love and I wish you all the best with your writing and that book becoming a New York Bestseller. One Love πŸ™‚

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  5. I’m on a mission to one day leave the city life behind and live plain simple in nature..near a beach perhaps…as long as there’s green and water around me and not just concrete. Lovely post!!πŸ’—

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    1. Thanks Jey. When I migrated from Jamaica and moved to the US, I moved to New York City. Everything was big, bright and fast paced. When the idea of moving to Florida came up last year, I somewhat hesitated, because I was so attached to the city life. But, I have been living in Florida for almost a year now and life is peaceful, calm and relaxing. You wake up to nature everyday, not concrete buildings and car fumes. Living close to nature really makes you one with it. So, I hope one day soon you will be able to live near that beach. Irie.

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      1. Gosh Irie. I’m jealous!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Great for you that you’ve found a peaceful environment. I can only imagine how that feels!! Hope my day will come soon. I love your blog btw…great topics that speaks to anyone, really. I couldn’t stop reading and commenting obviously☺

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        1. Lol. I am sure your day will come soon too. I grew up in a small farming town in Jamaica, so I am used to peaceful. I resented it at one point in my life before I migrated, but we have found love again. lol

          I appreciate the kind words and glad I can offer content that resonates with your personal thoughts and struggles. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks for your feedback. I believe it is important to have dreams and aspirations as they aid in helping you find yourself in this world. However, everyone has their own version of happiness and success, and for some that is just obtaining and being grateful for the simple things. One Love.

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  6. I totally agree. My father is an engineer. Both he and my mother came from very small towns. They both place a great deal of value of becoming wealthy. To them, money has always been a sign of success. My dream has always been to travel and live close to nature. I just don’t have the same values that they do. This argument has been a great source of divisiveness between us, my whole life. I understand their idea of success and see why having a foundation of money is a priority. They however, have never been able to understand or identify with my view of what success looks like. I believe, one day, they will understand. But even if they don’t, I’ve finally gained the approval of myself to pursue these ideals.

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    1. Thanks for your feedback Luna. I am glad to know that you have reached a stage in your life where other people’s (even your parents) opinions don’t cloud your judgement of what your ideal life should be like. Success on earth is unfortunately measured in material wealth and we get caught up in it, because after all, we are earthly beings. It takes some level of wisdom and open-mindedness to transcend above those narrow minded beliefs. But, to each his own. Live in your truth and be happy, don’t let any one force their beliefs upon you and vice versa. We all have our own paths to take in this world. One Love!

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  7. I think the important thing for people to remember is that less can be more, and one man’s junk is another man’s treasure. Different lifestyles have their own pros and cons, and each person has their own formula for happiness. That being said, I do hope that there aren’t many people who could accomplish more than they are but aspire to less due to fear alone.

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    1. Oh yes, we are led to believe from we are kids that if you don’t grow up to be rich and powerful your life is worthless. Society shapes our mindsets, dreams and aspirations, and those who do not think outside that box are left caught up in the illusion. Less is more in many cases, and happiness does not discriminate whether you are a millionaire or a poor farmer. Life is what you make it and happiness is normally found in the simplest things. One Love!

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  8. I am happy to move around for now and not having a fixed place. I am happy when I’m free and I can move around the way I want to. Aettelim in for an apartment house family would make me feel probably bot the way I want to feel right now maybe in a couple of years things change. But everyone is different a s this is what I love about our lives.

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    1. Thanks for your feedback. Indeed, we all have our own life experiences that shape our own versions of happiness, contentment and fulfillment. Sometimes it takes a while to find it, but when you do, you definitely know, because you feel so at home. One Love!

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